Duty

August 21 - DUTY

'Discipline says I need to, Duty says I have to and Devotion says I want to'. 

'Duty should be a byproduct of who we truly are, and what we value, and what is important to us'. 

Today's meditation has me thinking about what I do out of 'duty'? 

What in my life is an horrendous unenjoyable ritualised task due to the feeling of having no choice but to fulfill an obligation? 

(And no Mark a daily bowel movement is not the kind of 'doody' I am talking about LMAO). 

The definition of duty is: A moral or legal obligation, a responsibility. 

So if you think of it in that way, most of what I do is out of duty of some kind but it has turned into an expression of love and so I continue to do it, freely and willingly. Maybe? I don't know! 

I've been sitting here chatting with Mark about this topic (well more debating) and each thing we've thought of has a motivating force 'of love' behind the reason why I do the majority of the things I do in my life. The only things we could really come up with that I do out of a duty is to pay my bills, taxes, bookwork and the gardening lol BUT even each of those have a reason behind them, a motivating force which comes from a place of love SO the duty for them is secondary - a by product.

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Its OK to not be OK...

August 20th 2016 - Sadness / Moving On

'My grief and pain are mine - I have earned them, they are part of me. Only in feeling them do I open myself to the lessons they can teach'. 

Earlier this week after trying so hard to be strong for so long I surrendered to everything I was feeling and allowed the veils of keeping a brave front to be dissolved. It was in doing that, that the process of healing truly began. Rather than keeping myself held a prisioner of stagnation, resentment and remorse I was able to open a new pathway of growth and exploration.

I believe that everything happens for a reason whether its to teach us a lesson, to remind us of values or to just make us stop and reflect. You cannot move forward unless you first let go and order for that to happen and for new beginnings and possbilities to be possible you need to acknowledge what is real. 

I'm not saying to unpack our grief and to stay there but I do think we need to keep it real. Express that which is causing saddness, despair, resignation rather than bottling it up, ignoring it and hoping that it will all just magically go away. 

It is in the acknowledgement of things that are less joyful (negatives) that our joys (positives) gain greater power as we are much more thankful for them....to find balance we must acknowledge the existence of duality.

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Exhaustion due to busy-ness

My thought/meditation for the day from the book 'Meditations for woman who do too much by Anne Wilson Schaef.

August 19th - Exhaustion

'Busyness is a drug that alot of people are addicted to'.

'It is not enough to be busy; so are the ants, the question is - what are we busy doing'?

'It is not what I do, but the way that I do it that will get me in the end'.

Even that which is good for us can have a negative effect if it takes over and becomes an overwhelming addiction fueling the fire of our exhaustion.

In past years I would fill my life to the brim with 'things' to do because I wasn't happy and so was hoping that the more full my life was that it would help make me full-filled, in actual fact what it did was create more dis-stress in my life adding to the unhappiness. 

These days I am in a place of happiness and as such have lightened the load and released the need to be constantly 'doing' something at a high pace or at a level of achievement. 

Whilst this is great, on another hand it also leaves me feeling like I should be doing more, I should get more clients, I should study, I should have a hobby. Where is the line drawn? 

For me personally it is about choices....

I choose to do something rather than feeling like I have to. 'Have to' implies I have no choice when in reality we always have a choice. I choose to get clients so that I can provide for my family, I choose to study to increase my knowledge in areas I find interesting and I choose to do a hobby in order to appeal to my creative nature, socialise ect whatever the reason maybe. So where am I going with all this? Busyness is a choice - choose what you spend your time (energy) on wisely and the bank will not keep depleting.

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My Daily Meditations

I've decided that I'm going to read through this book each day and if I have something worthy of sharing that relates to elements within my life at that particular moment, then I'm going to blog about it.  This could be interesting......stay tuned :)

On another topic completely.....

I am trying to figure out how to add a thumbnail photo snippet and summary to my blog posts (other than having to manually add a 'jump break' thingy and it is completely doing my head in.  I have followed posts and tutorials and its still not working.  Arrhhhh technology sucks sometimes but then again I wouldn't be sharing this without it now, would I.

In order to see if the last code I entered worked or not I'm just going to ramble on for a little while about nothing really in particular because surprisingly enough I actually can't think of anything to say right now - there's a turn up for the books.

This whole design thing is so time consuming but whilst I'm laid up in bed resting  (well actively resting because I'm doing this), I am actually finding it somewhat therapeutic - except of course for the frustration that not being able to get this thumbnail/readmore thingy working.

Well I think that's enough characters or whatever they call it to be able to test it out.

Thanks for reading....any tips if I can't get it working would be ultra appreciated xo

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